wednesday night Step Questions
Step 1 We admitted we were powerless over alcohol – that our lives had become unmanageable.
1) Do I accept that I cannot control another person’s drinking? Another person’s behavior?
2) How do I recognize that the alcoholic is an individual with habits, characteristics and ways of reacting to daily happenings that are different from mine?
3) Do I accept that alcoholism is a disease? How does that change how I deal with the drinker?
4) How have I tried to change others in my life? What were the consequences?
5) What means have I used to get what I want and need? What might work better to get my needs met?
6) How do I feel when the alcoholic refuses to be and do what I want? How do I respond?
7) What would happen if I stopped trying to change the alcoholic or anyone else?
8) How can I let go of others’ problems instead of trying to solve them?
9) Am I looking for a quick fix to my problems? Is there one?
10) In what situations do I feel excessive responsibility for other people?
11) In what situations do I feel shame or embarrassment for someone else’s behavior?
12) What brought me into Al-Anon? What did I hope to gain at that time? How have my expectations changed?
13) Who has expressed concerns about my behavior? My health? My children? Give examples.
14) How do I know when my life is unmanageable?
15) How have I sought the approval and affirmation from others?
16) Do I say “yes” when I want to say “no”? What happens to my ability to manage my life when I do this?
17) Do I take care of others easily, but find it difficult to take care of myself?
18) How do I feel when life is going smoothly? Do I continually anticipate problems? Do I feel more alive in the midst of crisis?
19) How well do I take care of myself?
20) How do I feel when I am alone?
21) What is the difference between pity and love?
22) Am I attracted to alcoholics and other people who seem to need me to fix them? How have I tried to fix them?
23) How do I trust my feelings? How do I know what they are?
